Something that is as mortal as the looks can’t be love. Beauty changes not only with costume and age (time) but with feelings, thoughts and expressions and more with our own values and perspective towards others (whom we are estimating)...

When will we be together?



When will we be together?

To that love found unfound, to that warmth

The moment forth some say,

Are ready to die

But I wanna live it,

All again

Like life we always fancied

To change the ambience incessantly

Where we know each other’s heart

Even if in utterly silent

Is it in solitude or is it lonely?

Where we speak soft,

By no means would our feeling be scanty

 Surprisingly!!! Loveliness resonates

It never hurts

But far and wide, our being and spirit are cured



A Real Adoration: (part 3)

One of my favourite lines reads,

“Let our relationship be blessing to us, blessing to others and more importantly something that glorifies our lord”

Recently came across a topic about ‘godly wife’ yes, it inspired me for some days. We all have an image of ideal relationship in our mind but the fact is our life and we are that ‘work in progress’ and not complete. Not every tip available can be implemented so let us say; good spouse in place of godly and slowly advance in that direction.

Trying to figure out, what causes conflict between couples and the relationship to wither:

1.    Cold attitude like being self centred, not caring for other’s feelings

2.    Misunderstandings not resolved

3.    Lack of communication

4.    Not giving the time that’s required for relationship to work

5.    Comparing one’s own relationship with some other happy couples, identifying only the unapproved behaviour  forgetting the best side and that which is going well

6.    Difference in personal goals (to name a few)

How to sort it out?

One simple thing will be to do exactly the opposite of above (reasons that causes conflict)

Love with trust and compatibility (had heard it somewhere) is needed for a relationship to succeed, equally needed is honesty. Openness in expressing, concern, sharing the dreams would blossom relation. These are again taken words: treat others how you want them to treat you, let us not love just with words but with actions and in truth. Especially in a new relation the family and friends should know when they have to give suggestions/ play the role of the intermediaries and when they have to leave the couple to enjoy their life or deal with the situation on their own.

Those that bond and connect a heart to another are love, care, kindness, words, understanding ...a little compromise at times and everything that is synonymous with humanity.

The expectations from a relation should be realistic, healthier to focus on what’s happening now rather than being anxious of future or gone past.

A Real Adoration: (part 2)

IMO, love is a feeling that exists between 2 individuals who look up to each other’s positives so as to appreciate and imbibe it into their own lives along with working on the personal flaws, being there, sharing, caring and helping one another to be better humans, besides fulfilling responsibilities .

I guess that was a practical and realistic definition of love. Let me explain bit more, in love we look at each other’s positives, it’s not the infatuation but the nicest quality the other person has that has made us love and if we lack in that trait we can inculcate one. We aren’t perfect hence we have our negative side as well and we aren’t bluffing our feelings so in a polite way both will strive to improve oneself and will acknowledge each other of ways it can be done.

Some other random thoughts:

§ Is love mutual or is it selfless? 

If it is mutual, it would mean give and take relationship and being selfless would mean loving without expecting anything in return. Well, it has to be selfless till a point where your love realises; you are integral, indivisible part of their existence (and it becomes mutual)

§ We are ready to over look the mistakes of our loved ones, we can’t think of harming them even in our thoughts, we are most gentle dealing with them, why can’t we treat others like we would treat the person we love most? – one of many things true fondness can teach us

§ Let me be dedicated to you and that dedication be pure...(its adoration not just love)

§ There are people who truly love you and you got to be happy for them because much of their happiness depends on your own

§ Spring is beautiful no doubt; autumn is beautiful in its own ways… Love gets strengthened as we get to know each other over years of togetherness.  Physicality anyways exists, more necessary is the emotional relation (connection at the emotional level) wherein the couple will take care of emotional needs, understand likes and dislikes, comforts and discomforts and how they ought to treat each other

A Real Adoration: (part 1)

I know love but not everything about it... just like life, not all of its questions has an answer; at least am not aware of it at present. When we know it in true sense, probably many of our troubles would cease and there will be the feeling of bountifulness so why shouldn’t we fall in? J

There are many ideas and suggestions out there telling us, how to have authentic relation, how to be a good spouse, what we can do to make our marriage successful and the like. But there are 2 of it, one a tale and the other a verse from bible that sums it up...

A story in Buddhism about a woman named Sujatha, (Buddhism. Anguttara Nikaya, Sujata Sutta) speaks of seven kinds of wife: a slayer, a robber, a master, a mother, a sister, a friend and a handmaid like wife. Let us talk about the last four categories of wife as it nicely tells the wonderful roles a woman plays as a wife (there are several other compositions in languages like Sanskrit but I choose this one). The story says, a good wife could be mother like wife to her husband who (IMO, is there for him when in need; listening to what her husband has got to say… is gentle, quite and stable.) who is loving, sympathetic, cares for her husband just like a mother cares for her son and does not waste his hard earned wealth. Another type of wife is sister like who clings to her spouse for protection, serves him, and stands by his wishes. A friend like wife, who has all qualities of a good companion such as appreciating that which is good conduct, advising and correcting when wrong and being supportive. And the last kind is help maid like wife who is loyal, pure in heart, obedient, calm, fearless… (When I read this piece, I felt how little I know and there is much for us to learn when it comes to dealing with soulful humans)

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”  -Bible (every word valuable enough to contemplate)