A Real Adoration: (part 3)

One of my favourite lines reads,

“Let our relationship be blessing to us, blessing to others and more importantly something that glorifies our lord”

Recently came across a topic about ‘godly wife’ yes, it inspired me for some days. We all have an image of ideal relationship in our mind but the fact is our life and we are that ‘work in progress’ and not complete. Not every tip available can be implemented so let us say; good spouse in place of godly and slowly advance in that direction.

Trying to figure out, what causes conflict between couples and the relationship to wither:

1.    Cold attitude like being self centred, not caring for other’s feelings

2.    Misunderstandings not resolved

3.    Lack of communication

4.    Not giving the time that’s required for relationship to work

5.    Comparing one’s own relationship with some other happy couples, identifying only the unapproved behaviour  forgetting the best side and that which is going well

6.    Difference in personal goals (to name a few)

How to sort it out?

One simple thing will be to do exactly the opposite of above (reasons that causes conflict)

Love with trust and compatibility (had heard it somewhere) is needed for a relationship to succeed, equally needed is honesty. Openness in expressing, concern, sharing the dreams would blossom relation. These are again taken words: treat others how you want them to treat you, let us not love just with words but with actions and in truth. Especially in a new relation the family and friends should know when they have to give suggestions/ play the role of the intermediaries and when they have to leave the couple to enjoy their life or deal with the situation on their own.

Those that bond and connect a heart to another are love, care, kindness, words, understanding ...a little compromise at times and everything that is synonymous with humanity.

The expectations from a relation should be realistic, healthier to focus on what’s happening now rather than being anxious of future or gone past.