Wonder, if want both happiness and its antonym come to me in installments rather than in lump sum. If I have a box of my favourite sweets I may have 2 or 3 in one go but when it comes to eating  the last piece, I will take small nibbles and enjoy every bite. I may go for tiny long hurts instead of an incidence that would leave a deep scar or crippled. ( a post, published but still not sure of the content)